How to create peace outside of traditional duties and responsibilities

As a man sometimes you have to do things outside of the "traditional man" duties to help your spouse if she's going to be late getting home from work, to set an example for your daughter that a man can provide a good meal for his family and not just change the oil, or even just to send a message to the kids to not just work and say “I bring home the money to pay the bill's etc and that's my time for you” etc. The little things truly do matter. Time really does matter. For example, today...making a mess in the kitchen and joking around about how this complicated recipe is crazy, but Daddy is going to put my own twist to it and it'll be great! That’s a teaching/memory moment. Teaching how to think outside the box when something seems complicated to still render good results is a life skill. Creating memories of laughter during preparation, the smiles, the glow in your children and wife eyes as they eat a delicious meal that you prepared is priceless. Now this also sets the tone for the young men we have in the home as well. Not only are they empowered to know that they have a responsibility to protect their family, but also to provide outside of superficial materialistic support. Lastly in moments like this it is very important for the spouse (husband or wife; but wife in this scenario) to show great love and appreciation. It sets the tone for her daughters to show appreciation etc, and shows her sons what that looks like. If your Good ( not perfect) God fearing man is doing something that gives you a break, and is a known duty that you know is a pain for him; but he's doing it anyway for all the above reasons...it is your responsibility to set the tone for your children and exemplify the moment. Proverbs 14:1 ~The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears it down~ Exemplifying the moment will help create more moments of your liking, decrease stress, and produce positivity. Same with the husband...if you change the oil all the time, but one day your wife (one that doesn’t like to do any maintenance on a vehicle) gets under the vehicle and changes the oil (and all turns out well :-); that moment should be exemplified although you do it all the time. To maintain peace don't compare the moment to all the times you've done the same thing because your subconscious will tame your heart and hinder the actions needed to exemplify the moment. Ladies remember you are the Queen of the Household and your actions can lift the spirit of all in the household or tame them to a point that kills the message. Remember again...Proverbs 14:1 ~The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears it down~ There is a saying that the way to a man's heart is his stomach, and I believe the way to touch our soul is Respect, Affection, and Support...I left "Love" out on purpose because it is an action that will resonate and be exemplified more and more as Respect, Affection, and Support are exercised to your maximum capability. The Bible holds true when it commands a woman to respect her husband and commands a man to love his wife. Although it works both ways remember the reason why it is commanded...they are “most” important for survival if you want to live a life of peace. A man cares about you loving him, but “needs” respect as it (there’s all kinds of ways to explain respect and I don’t mean bowing down and doing everything a man says etc) would take priority over love; and Woman “need” love as emotional creatures (and definitely respect as well) and love will take priority over respect; but remember you “BOTH” giving what is commanded creates a never ending balance of love and respect toward each other. Beautiful right?...but very hard and complicated to do because our minds, emotions, hormones, thoughts etc are not perfect in times of distress, anger, or frustration. There are many examples, books, research, etc as to why the aforementioned holds true, but that is for another day. In closing try your best to maintain peace within your home. No one is perfect. Outside of abuse and infidelity, maintain your relationship and help it grow by honestly trying to give your best parts of you. No one is perfect (we’ve definitely had/have our share of tough moments). I hope a snippet out of our life helped yours. Work on yourself, keep God 1st, support each other, try not to be too sensitive when approached, and watch God work. Give is your feedback. What are some ways you have expressed appreciation or brought positivity into your home? How do you show respect and love to your husband or wife? What examples do you set for the kids in relation to the above message? We would love to hear what you have to say. It may open up a venue of discussion to help a soul in need. Thank you for taking the time to read. God Bless.